One of the saddest things for an expectant family to experience is the loss of meeting the little one they were so happy to see. All the reasons why seem to fade away as the deep sorrow sets in. But what can you do? This post is meant to offer you a path to healing yourself from miscarriage. May it bring comfort.
The process is a bit like the tree trimesters in the way women can heal. Here is my advice that comes from a long with standing Maya tradition. Much of it is infused with beautiful ceremonies to honor the womb and emotions process this tragedy.
The process is a bit like the tree trimesters in the way women can heal. Here is my advice that comes from a long with standing Maya tradition. Much of it is infused with beautiful ceremonies to honor the womb and emotions process this tragedy.
First ~ Healing Time with a Steam
After such an intense ending to something you thought was a beginning, you must slow down and tend to your body and emotions. Set aside a time where you have at least three hours to yourself. This is a ceremony not a cleanse, and although cleansing the uterus physically is important, we will address that later. First you want to tend to the emotions of the heart and womb. Vaginal steams are herbal teas where the volatile oils enter the body through steam. The act of taking time to acknowledge what the body and spirit are going through is vital as the next step in moving towards healing. Taking this time to journal and meditate on the experience can help you find peace within yourself. The herbs will do their work as you relax. Learn how to do a steam here: Vaginal Steam Guidance.
Next Phase ~ Female Tonic ~ Cleansing the Womb
When ready, the Female Tonic is here to cleanse your uterus more deeply. The herbal blend loosens any old blood and holding from the inner walls of the uterus. It's shower-like effect draws out what is no longer serving the body. This process is very important after a miscarriage. Cleansing the uterus and starting fresh is the foundation for a healthy menses. If a woman is looking to get pregnant again, this step will help make it more possible for a successful, healthy pregnancy. Learn more about how to use the tonic here: Female Tonic Directions.
Honoring the Unborn Spirit
Another important piece of creating a sense of completion with miscarriage is to have a ceremony for when the baby would have been born. Calculate the 9 month gestation and mark that day on your calendar. When the day comes, do something you feel is a special way to remember the unborn spirit. Maybe it's a walk that ends at a river where you offer up some flowers and a prayer. Or maybe you want to make a cake and share it with your close family. Perhaps you just want to set the day aside to be alone. Whatever feels like a good way to honor the moment so you can move on is what's important to the healing process.
Closure
I pray that these steps guide you to a more peaceful place in your heart. May you find the inner strength that helps you feel hopeful and trust in the divine path of life. Connecting with other women who have gone through this experience can be vital support that you need right now. Above all, don't shut down, practice self-care. If you need a flower essence blend to help you with this time in your life, I am happy to make you one. You can learn about them here: Flower Essences to Soothe Your Soul.
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